Human-‘Being’ or Human-‘Doing’

Sixth Post – Series ‘Reloading Mental Health’ – June 2020

An excerpt from ‘The Shift’ by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer –

“Since our childhood, we learn that doing things, especially if we do them earlier and better than others, is rewarding. We learn to be more of a human ‘doing’ than a human ‘being’ (who just has to be). We took on an identity that told us, “When you do things, and do them better and sooner than your counterparts, then you have value”. We are rewarded for our accomplishments with praise. Our education system emphasizes accomplishment – no ‘Gold Star’ is interpreted as no value as a person. We’re defined by how well we do. If we don’t do well, we’re labeled ‘underachievers’. The popular saying ‘Winning isn’t everything, it’s the only thing’ makes losers out of 50% of competitors, since every competition that has a winner must also have a loser. Every time we feel as though we’ve failed, we place our worth as human ‘being’ in jeopardy. If we’re sick or injured and can no longer perform according to our standards, we also become candidates for depression or are susceptible to a multitude of physical ailments. I’ve reached the age that many refer to as ‘retirement time’. But I’m not my work. I’m not my accomplishment. I’m not my resume. I live, breathe and work for and work from my authentic self. How’s the concept of retirement even possible? How can I retire from who I am? And who I am allows this writing and speaking and everything else I do take place.”

How to be?

One of the hard-hitting subtle damages of COVID-19 is that it has snatched away the normal way of ‘doings’ from the majority of world population, to the extent that everyone is losing their sane self. The reason is that because we are defined by our doings, it becomes difficult to dis-identify from them and just ‘be’. This shift from ‘doing’ to a partial sense of ‘being’ is leading to emotional disturbances in majority of population during this lockdown. People know how to handle their physical ailments but are clueless of what to do and when to seek help for emotional trauma. This is a serious issue that is not to be overlooked. Emotional health is as important as physical illness, but the sudden change of lifestyle has rendered countless silent sufferers of depression, anxiety, stress and panic attacks. The solution to this problem is self-analysis from time-to-time. Any kind of feeling of unrest is not to be ignored. It is to be reported to the family physician.

Ayurveda is largely a counseling based system of health. Being holistic in approach, it takes all the physical and emotional ailments together without their actual separation. Seek help whenever required.

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Source: ‘The Shift’ – Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

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Hanuman vs Valmiki Ramayana

Second Post – Series ‘Reloading Mental Health’ – Feb 2020

Here’s a parable –

When Valmiki completed his Ramayana, Narada was not impressed.

‘It is good, but Hanuman’s is better’, he said.

Valmiki wondered whose Ramayana was better. So he set out to find Hanuman. In Kadali-vana (grove of plantains), he found Ramayana inscribed on seven broad leaves of a banana tree. He read it and found it to be perfect. He couldn’t help himself. He started to cry.

‘Is it so bad?’ asked Hanuman.
‘No, it is so good’, said Valmiki.
‘Then why are you crying?’ asked Hanuman.
‘Because after reading your Ramayana no one will read my Ramayana,’ replied Valmiki.

Hearing this Hanuman simply tore up the seven banana leaves stating ‘Now no one will ever read Hanuman’s Ramayana’ Hanuman added, ‘you need your Ramayana more than I need mine. You wrote your Ramayana so that the world remembers Valmiki; I wrote my Ramayana so that I remember Ram.’

At that moment Valmiki realized how he had been consumed by the desire for validation through his work. He had not used the work to liberate himself from the fear of invalidation. He had not appreciated the essence of Rama’s tale to unknot his mind. His Ramayana was a product of ambition; Hanuman’s Ramayana was a product of affection. That’s why Hanuman’s Ramayana sounded so much better. Valmiki realized that greater than Rama is the idea of Rama.

This story tells us that greater than work is the intent of work. Self-validation emerges the flow of love and passion in everything we do or not do.

Hanuman, who has the ability to selflessly perform duties, symbolizes intense dedication, confidence and morality. There are people, like Hanuman, who don’t want to be famous. They have the strength that is independent on external validation, and they do stuff just to fulfill their purpose. They co-exist in the world of people like Valmiki – the ones who work only to be validated by the world. The Valmikis need not assume that their Ramayana (work) is necessarily the best. There are many unsung Hanumans who enjoy their work and are content with what they do.

Social media presence, phobia, validation and acceptance take a toll on mental as well as emotional health. Desire to lead an unending race, with the intent of becoming famous, is eradicating crucial years off human life. Ayurveda is a counselling based system of medicine. Ayurveda counselling creates awareness about individual’s ‘Mind-Body Constitution’ according to which lifestyle can be changed to optimize physical, mental and emotional health. Self-realization leads to self-validation.

Source: The speaking Tree

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May 2020

World Mental Health Day

World Mental Health Day was celebrated for the first time on October 10 1992 at the initiative of Deputy Secretary General Richard Hunter. It is now observed on the same day every year, with the overall objective of raising awareness of mental health issues around the world and mobilizing efforts in support of mental health.

We become more powerful when we empower. So today, be with people more than being with the gadgets. Every individual can play a role by helping those who are not able to help themselves. Look around for anyone who needs mental support. Be with them. Hold their hand and bring them out of their self-created pit of darkness.

Ayurveda says that thoughts are designed to be in a constant state of movement. Depression occurs when thoughts and emotions are denied this movement. We have a choice to accept or reject a thought. Allow the negative thoughts to move on and be with the positive ones. Allowing the thoughts their natural flow helps to avoid depression.

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